Sunday, 31 December 2006

Claire and Katya are home

Claire and Katya arrived home this afternoon. It is good to finally be a family under our own roof.

Today and yesterday my father and I bought a lot of stuff to make the house more functional. Today we fitted things like a dryer and more cupboards etc.

I also arranged the babies room and cut out stuff we didn't need. You go into this with so much stuff and then you realise that you only need a few simple things.

Anyway... we will spend our second night at home but this time in a much more happy state.

Saturday, 30 December 2006

Katya is a week old

Well Katya is a week old!

Last night was good. I feed Katya during the night and she settle wonderfully. Claire had a good night sleep and is feeling a lot better.

I actually got some sleep last night and feel a lot better.

This morning mum is staying in the hospital with Claire while I come home to sort a few things out and rest. I also get to see my sister who leaves tomorrow back to Aussie.

We expect that Claire will be home tomorrow.

Friday, 29 December 2006

I'm stuffed...

Claire, Katya and I spent last night in hospital. Claire had a good sleep (thanks to a couple of pills) and I looked after Katya.

This morning Claire is a lot better and even had the desire to breast feed (and did a good job of it too).

My mother arrived last night and will help carry a bit of what has landed on us. I seriously recommend any (I many any) couple planning on having a child to have someone there 24/7 for at least a week. This was a mistake on our behalf.

As for Claire, she continues to produce masses of milk. Physically she is well. Even the disjointed sentences have improved. And her memory has started to work.

Later today she will be assessed. I think they will find she is not depressed but rather extremely anxious. Her anxiety has been born out of us having too higher expectations. As these expectations start to lower and become a bit more real, I suspect Claire will return to who Claire really is.

However the assessment will help make sure there is nothing else floating in the background.

As for me, I am about to enjoy lunch, have a nap and wander back up later today.

Thursday, 28 December 2006

A step backwards

Today the midwife came around. She has admitted Claire back to hospital with depression. Physically everyone is fine. Mentally Claire is not able to cope. This is not surprising given all she has gone through. She has done amazingly well to get this far.

Tomorrow she will be assessed and we will find a way forward.

If you are from the praying section of our friends, we would appreciate your prayers. At the moment we are not in a good place. Of particular concern is the return of the shakes and other blood pressure related issues.

Needless to say... all visits are off until we have worked through this issue.

First night home

We have survived our first night home. It was very difficult. It consisted of breast feeding, a nappy change, then a top up with previously expressed milk, then Claire expressing, then Katya falling asleep in my arms, a two hour nap... and then repeat procedure.

Claire got some good sleep and we are getting both her and Katya into a routine (because it will all turn to custard otherwise).

I reckon I have two nights of being functional in this role and then I will crash. I'm praying that is enough time for Claire to rejoin the world and settle in. At the moment she is struggling with shock (much like culture shock) and is a bit incoherent. I believe this is normal but it is quite a struggle seeing ones wife in this state.

Today our proper midwife will come around. I think this will help.

In hindsight we probably left one day too early from hospital but then that environment was a struggle in its own right.

It is funny... people gloss over these struggles. I think it would be helpful if I had of known what was coming. I no understand why in traditional culture, having kids involves the grandmothers a lot.

Wednesday, 27 December 2006

We're home!

We have made it home.

This first photo is Katya in her capsule at hospital.


This second photo is Katya in her capsule at home in her room.


This final photo is of my two girls in Katya's room.


We decided to come home bacause the Maternity ward was getting a bit frustrating (and Claire's blood pressure had come right and Katya was tested healthy). The "science" of being a midwife seems to be quite variable in the ward. We were getting different advice every change in shift. There is room for a lot of improvement. I might write more about this later.

Anyway... we are home and we are rapidly finding out that we have to take things slowly. It seems you can only change one thing at a time without the world falling on once head.

All in all... today has been a good day. The milk tanker arrived for Claire and we are home. That is pretty good.

Tuesday, 26 December 2006

The name...

So people have been asking about the name.

Yes... Katya Annesa Savill Gardiner is quite a mouth full. As you can gather, having a bit of difference in a name does not phase me. I have had 33 years of explaining that Sym is not short for anything... :)

Anyway... we wanted a name that has a Russian feel to it. We have a strong connection and love for Russia so that was a must.

The name Katya comes from meeting a girl in Russia in 2005 with this name. The name is pronounced in English...

Kar-tch-ya

The t has a "ch" sound in it.

The name Annesa comes from another girl we met in Russia (in 2006). Her name was Ennesa (or Innesa). We liked the Russian name Anna (said the Russian way). So we changed the E to an A and we got Annesa. The name is pronounced in English...

Arn-essa (like Arnie or Terminator fame)

The name Savill is Claire's maiden name. We wanted some connection their so this goes in as a middle name. No Russian pronounciation here.

And Gardiner is our surname!!!!

In Russian Katya will be called Katya Symova... has a nice ring to it.

Evermore

I have been listening to a band called Evermore. They are NZers and are pretty good.

If you go to http://www.evermoreband.com/news/ you can get a stream so you can listen to theri music. There are full high quality versions that can be played.

They have a really nice sound. The are a little like Cold Play but with more musical variety.

Churches see big increase in turnout

It was standing room only at many Christmas services this year as churches reported higher-than-expected attendances.

The 11.30pm service at the Holy Trinity Cathedral in Parnell on Christmas Eve was jam-packed, said Anglican Church spokesman Lloyd Ashton.

Catholic Church spokeswoman Lyndsay Freer said St Michael's Church in Remuera, where she worshipped, welcomed more people than ever before to its Midnight Mass.

An earlier service at 7pm for families and small children at St Michael's was "packed to the gunnels".

"We've seen for some reason that there are far more people this year than we have ever seen," she said.

This backed up census information that showed an increase in those worshipping at Catholic churches.

Many people attend church only at Christmas and Easter.

"While Easter is the main festival of the Christian churches, Christmas has a particular appeal, said Mrs Freer, a papal dame.

"I'm also wondering if there hasn't been some sort of backlash against the political correct thing against religious symbols," she said.

Mr Ashton said there were no national attendance figures for Anglican churches but he had never seen so many at the Holy Trinity service.

He also believed Christmas struck a deep chord with a lot of people.

Christmas, like Easter, is a time when those who do not attend church regularly swell congregations.

Mr Ashton said he observed that when the Maori Queen died in August it moved people at a deep level and maybe Christmas and Easter did that as well.

- NZPA

Monday, 25 December 2006

Today was a good day...



Some pics from today. Today was a good day. Lots more things came right. Katya is now out of the incubator. She took a bit to settle into the non-Fiji environment (she loved sunbathing in the incubator). But she is now very happy in her cot.

Claire is a lot happier and much more mobile. She is still struggling with blood pressure. This is causing the doctors some worry.

Tomorrow it may be ok for visitors. Only a few. So if you want to pop in, please txt/sms me. We will see how things are going and let you know. We have to balance making sure Katya gets feed enough, Claire gets to rest but also that you our friends get to meet our daughter.

We have turned a corner

I am just back from the hospital for lunch. We seem to have turned a corner. Katya is feeding properly. Claire is soooooooooooooooooooo much better (both physically and mentally). And most things that were an issue have been resolved.

Here are a couple more pics. Not the new fashion accessory... an apple protector for Katya's head.


Oh... other good things include Katya is putting on weight. She was 3.2kg at birth. Now she is 3.8kg!!! And we are getting soaking nappies (which is good apparently for all except the person changing them).

Sunday, 24 December 2006

Katya - The Movie

This video has an unexpected end

Day Two

Day two of being a father has improved but things are still in the custard.

Claire's blood pressure seems ok now. However there are a lot of struggles after the C section. She has now been moved into the Maternity Ward and has her own room... which is a real blessing. I won't detail the struggles. I can say we all have a lot to learn and C sections can have impacts that are not medical.

Katya has jaundice and is now suntaning (see pics and video). This has helped sort one issue which was to get her to settle. When she gets put in the incubator she just checks out and goes to sleep. If she wakes, you just rock the incubator at the same pace as her breathing and all is well.




In the process of today I wiped my first bottom, cleaned up my first kid power chuck and came the closest I ever have to losing my rag. Not bad for one day.

Couple more pics



Emma... our cool hospital midwife who was so good. We had her on two shifts.

More baby pics


Sarah all gowned up. I'm not good with blood so it was great Sarah was there to go into the C section.

Claire attached to many many machines.

Katya and Claire feeding for the first time. This was in recovery.

Saturday, 23 December 2006

First Day as a father

Today has been great and difficult.

Claire is doing wonderfully feeding Katya and she is mending from the c-section very well. Her blood presure etc are now fine.

Katya is very well... knocking out the most disgusting black tar (poos) I have ever seen. She is feeding like a sumo wrestler.

Claire is struggling with the after effects of the birth. This has really hit her emotionally. I think it is a combination of drugs, no sleep, no food and one of the craziest events that can hit you (having a kid).

Fortunately there have not been any beds available in the maternity ward so we have been able to stay in the delivery ward.

We have had the best hospital midwives in Emma and Rachel. In fact all the midwives have been great but these two ladies are cool.

We have had wonderful support from our church family, including some very encouraging e-mails and sms/txt from our church family in Irkutsk, Russia.

Introducing Katya Annesa Savill Gardiner


Claire, Katya, Sarah (our wonderful support person from church) and me

Katya!!!

We had a scary time. The induction started on Thursday evening. Claire stayed in hospital overnight. On Friday morning we went down to delivery and it all turned to custard. Claire's blood pressure was very (dangerously) high and we spend all day trying to get that down. Finally it was down by 7pm when the heavy duty induction medicines were appled. However these medicines simply they did not work.

By 3am in the morning it was decided to do a C-section.

And a 5:27am Katya was born.

The big up side was the epidural was amazingly effective and Claire had no (none) pain.

We are now recovering from sleep deprevation. Claire will be in hospital for monitoring for her blood pressure and recovery. For the next couple of days we will not be doing visitors. Maybe on Monday we will see where we are at and let people know. Thanks in advance for respecting this need to recover and spend time with our first child.

Oh... and the specs...

Katya Annesa Savill Gardiner
Female
3.2Kg
Born 5:27am 23 December 2006
Perfect!!!

Thursday, 21 December 2006

The baby begins

Lastest update: Claire is now seven days overdue and we have decided to have an induction.

Tonight she began the induction procedure and is spending the night in Wellington hospital.

So long as everything goes ok, tomorrow I will bring news (and photos) of our daughter.

Monday, 18 December 2006

Random Photos and an Update



Here are a couple of unconnected photos.

One is our church van with a random set of emergency lights.

The other is my mother and sister inspecting the baby's room.

Speaking of babies... we are now over due (she was due last Thursday). If she doesn't pop out by this Thursday evening we will have an induction.

Saturday, 16 December 2006

A New Kind of Christian - Brian McLaren



I have just finished Brian McLaren's A New Kind of Christian book. Brian McLaren is one of the key people in the Emergent Church movement. He is like the philosopher or sage of the movement. As such he cops a lot of criticism from those opposed to the Emergent movement.

This book is the first of a series where he explores some ideas through a story about a pastor in an evangalical church working through the issues that face many churches and many Christians. The story is essentially a conversation between Neo (Dan's new friend) and Dan (the pastor).

It is a very interesting and effective technique for looking at these issues.

There are a few key points that come out of the book for me. Whether they are in the book or whether I was just prompted to think about them... ah... I'm not sure. Anyway... here is a list...

1. Brian makes a very good argument for our society and culture being in a time of transition from one paradigm to another. He says we are moving from a modern paradigm to the post-modern paradigm. Regardless of labels, I tend to agree with him.
2. Brian is woolly about hell. While there is some ambiguity in the Bible, there are some key understandings about hell. Primary amongst these is you don't want to be going there.
3. Brian is fully correct that we, as Christians, should stop focusing on obsure theology issues like hell, and focus on living the core of Jesus' teaching. I am personally fully convicted on this account.
4. Likewise, we should shift our focus from getting people into heaven and focus on being a blessing to the nations and let Jesus deal with the admissions policy into heaven. This applies particularly in our relationships with other religions and other denominations, which evangelical Christians have been not so flash in relating to.
5. One of the key aspects of the Christian message is connected to being in community and all that this entails. The more I think about it, groups like the Armish have got it right with thei focus on family and neighbours. That said we still need to connect into our wider communities.
6. There is a degree of wooliness in what Brian says about the Bible and what it states. I agree that there is a lot of the Bible that is best undertood in the form of stories and then into principles. I think that it is easy to swing too far though. Some stuff is just straight out statements.
7. Related to 4, we are far better to get on living as Jesus did/would than sitting around arguing about it. The difficult side of this is for people who teach at church. We don't just need to live it, we need to communicate it in an official "representative of Jesus" like manner and that is hard.
8. I fully agree that we should be finding ways of being one church, without dividing lines between denominations.

This is an interesting book. Brian is a gifted writer. And he is on to something about the shape of being Jesus in a new paradigm being quite different to what has gone on for the last 50 years.

Police officer commended over shooting

It is not often that I praise the NZ Police, but this article in today's paper deserves mention. It is a good example of the shoot as a last resort approach.


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Police officer commended over shooting

A police officer has not only been cleared of wrongdoing for fatally shooting a man, but his actions have been commended by the Police Complaints Authority (PCA).

Haidar Ebbadi Mahdi was shot in the head by police after pepper spray and three gunshot wounds to the leg failed to stop him from repeatedly stabbing his wife in their Pakuranga home, in Auckland.

An investigation by the PCA found that two days prior to the August 2004 incident Mahdi was found to be suffering from a paranoid schizophrenia for which, against doctors' recommendations he had refused to taken medication.

On the day of the shooting Mahdi's wife, Maryam Abed, found her husband sharpening a knife.

She told the PCA Mahdi grabbed her and held her hands behind her back and said to her "I'm going to kill you today, I want to kill you today".

Mahdi accused Mrs Abed of killing his brother, who was actually killed in Iraq during Saddam Hussein's regime.

Mrs Abed was cut several times as she tried to wrench the knife from her husband.

Upon seeing the blood Mahdi called 111 and told the ambulance service he had cut his wife "1001 times".

Police were then contacted by the dispatcher who sent a dog handler, known as Officer 1, and two constables, referred to as Officers 2 and 3, to the scene.

The officers found Mahdi and Mrs Abed in their lounge, whereupon Mahdi moved quickly towards his wife holding the knife. Officer 1 sprayed Mahdi with pepper spray, with no effect.

Mahdi then attacked Officer 1 and cut his arm so deeply the wounds required surgery.

All officers then retreated to the kitchen and had to stop Mahdi from following by leaning against the door between the lounge and kitchen.

Officer 1, who was holding a pistol, said they heard screams from Mrs Abed so re-entered the lounge. Mahdi was holding his wife in a headlock and had the knife near her throat.

Officer 1 three times told Mahdi to "drop the knife", and when that failed, he shot Mahdi three times in the leg.

Officer 1 said he hoped the shots "would distract him sufficiently to drop the knife, let the lady go and give us an opening to perhaps physically overpower him".

The gunshots appeared to have no effect on Mahdi who used Mrs Abed as a shield as he walked towards the officers, slashing his wife on the top of her head.

"At that point I really feared for her life," Officer 1 said.

"I thought she was about to die and at that point is when I decided I had to do something which was going to stop the situation immediately and I raised the gun, took an aimed shot at his head and fired one round and he immediately dropped to the ground."

In their recently released report, the PCA found that in shooting Mahdi, Officer 1 acted lawfully and properly.

"The authority regards Officer 1's handling of this violent and stressful situation as commendable.

"There can be no dispute that, but for the intervention of the police, at demonstrated risk to themselves, this incident would almost certainly have resulted in the death or grievous bodily harm, at Mr Mahdi's hands, of his wife."

Saturday, 9 December 2006

Flushed Away

Claire and I went to see Flushed Away today. Watch this preview and you will see some hampster butlers. They aren't in the movie.

However the movie is very very funny. I LOVE the slugs.

Friday, 8 December 2006

Very much ready


Claire is all ready. Now we are just waiting and waiting...

Thursday, 7 December 2006

New Look

I have updated the template for my blog. About time I had a new looks. Hope you enjoy.

Rick Warren On Tucker

Interesting interview. This Obama dude is really slick.

Monday, 4 December 2006

Barack Obama on The Tonight Show with Jay Leno (1)

Check out this guy. I think you are either seeing someone who will crash big time or be something like Bill Clinton and JFK.

Web Cams

In the right hand resource section of my blog I have added two webcam sites. One is of Irkutsk, Siberia and one is of Wellington, NZ. The Irkutsk one is technically better in that you can stream at one second intervals. The Wellington one has a large number of cameras.

Anyway... if you want to check out the weather in either place, here is your chance.

Next year when we go back to Irkutsk we will arrange a time when we will stand in front of the web cam and hold up a flag or something and txt/sms back to confirm we are seen.

Foxe's Christian Martyrs of the World


I recently finished John Foxe's book on Martyrs. This is a very old book more recently updated in its language. John Foxe was a Protestant who died in 1587. He compiled this book from accounts of people who had witnessed the persecution of Protestants, particularly under Queen Mary. The book was very popular with English Puritans.

Unfortunately, after I read this book, I can understand the ill feeling that many Protestants now have towards Catholics. The book records martyr after martyr who simply disagreed that the bread and the wine of communion physically became Jesus' body and blood.

After a religious group slaughters another religious group because of their differing beliefs, it is somewhat understandable that there would be some ill feeling.

The obvious modern day equivalent of this is the current American (viewed as Christian by the Iraqis) campaign in Iraqi. You could also count the Israeli/Palastinian conflict in the same bucket.

There are two lessons to learn. One... slaughtering people based on a theological or philosophical disagreement does not result in people changing. Two... it only ever has negative consequences for the 'offending party' down the track.

So... an interesting book. Worth a read. Please be wary of it shaping your views on the current Catholic church because that would be wrong. A few hundred years of water has gone under the bridge.

Friday, 1 December 2006

A Generous Orthodoxy - Brian McLaren



I have just finished reading this book. It is definitely a recommended read.

Brian McLaren is either seen as one of the most forward thinking Christian writers or a heretic... depending on your orthodoxy (to coin his phrase).

The jist of the book is two fold. Firstly, being a Christian is about being a blessing to ALL people. Secondly, how that plays out changes and therefore our orthodoxy is something that is constantly changing and growing.

If I wanted to be ungenerous, I would critique McLaren's take on things on three fronts.

Firstly, he does not consistently recognise that Jesus is actually God manifest in human form. He seems to have a rather fluid view of the Trinity (that said so do many). I think this causes him some confusion and takes him down some unhelpful paths.

Secondly, McLaren elevates experience, litergy, tradition and particularly creeds to at least the same level as scripture. While I recognise that scripture is subject to interpretation (and hence has pitfalls), it is a lot "safer" (maybe I mean more useful or more right or more trustworthy) than experience, litergy, tradition and creeds.

Thirdly, McLaren focuses a lot on Christians doing stuff. This is all very good stuff like blessing others, helping the poor, redeeming the environment, reaching out to the marginalised... etc... BUT I believe he misses an aspect of just "being'. By this I mean that part of being a follower of Jesus is enjoying creation and 'being' a Jesus follower. McLaren actually talks about this but does not connect it with who we are as believers. SO I think Jesus calls us to "be" Christians and to "do" Christian stuff. (I'm not sure I have explained this clearly... I hope you understand).

These three issues are things that I suspect McLaren is still working through (like the rest of us, he hasn't got everything worked out).


If I wanted to be generous, I would recommend this book for the way it challenges. It is a call to get back to basics of LOVE GOD, LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOUR. It is a call to accept Jesus as our saviour AND our Lord. It is a call not to dismiss our heritage. It is a call to look forward. It is a call to focus on the unity in Jesus rather than hammer other denominations. It is a call to reach out to people who don't think the same as us. And a lot lot more.

I can quite understand why many churches and many Christians have got upset by this book. McLaren is not generous (I don't think this is intentional which makes it all the more damaging) in his critique of Christians who say they have the "right" way of being a Christian (these people where known as Pharisees in the Gospels... but they still exist today in all parts of the Christian community). He systematically (which is funny because McLaren is almost anti-systematic in his approach) destroys any argument that we, as mere humans, can claim to have worked out how to walk the 'right line'. For a Pharisee, who devotes all their time to working out the 'right line', this is deeply offensive (just as it was when Jesus called them on it). This has resulted in McLaren being critiqued either inaccurately (this is generally done by taking a statement out of context or in part) or personally. Both of these approaches are unfair based on what I have read in this book.

So have a read. Come to it with a closed mind, an open mind or a thoughtful mind. It doesn't matter. It will challenge you.